Praise be to Allaah.
If a woman says to her husband, I am not your wife, it does
not have any consequences, because the wife does not have the ability to
divorce her husband by talaaq.
But if the man says to his wife, You are not my wife, then
this is a metaphor for divorce, as was explained in the answer to question
The wife should avoid using such words, because her husband
may get angry and say the same to her, or he may confirm her words and say,
Yes you are not my wife, or words to that effect.
Marital problems should be dealt with in an atmosphere of
love and understanding, paying attention to each partner’s rights.
May Allaah help us all to do that which He loves and which
And Allaah knows best.