Wednesday, 29 June 2011

Islam Question and Answer - He was told that his wife had revived a previous forbidden relationship so he divorced her

He was told that his wife had revived a previous forbidden relationship so he divorced her
My friend got divorced in this Ramzan and his wife was(is) 5 months pregnant as well .

The reason for divorce was that his wife had boy friends before marriage and someone said that after marriage also she would meet her ex boy friends .

On this reason he divorced her and under the influence of his parents.

Now what i want to know is was that a right path , did it have Allah's Sanction to this deed ?

what about the child who is in the womb ? What will happen to that baby and his/her future ?


Praise be to Allaah.


What you have mentioned in the question covers a number of

1 – What you have mentioned about your friend divorcing his
wife during her pregnancy is valid according to the consensus of the
scholars, because of the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar in al-Saheehayn,
according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Tell him to take her back, then to divorce her when she is pure
(not menstruating) or pregnant.” That indicates that whoever divorces (his
wife when she is) pregnant, the divorce is valid. (Fataawa al-Talaaq
by Ibn Baaz, 1/45). 

2 – With regard to the reason that led him to divorce her,
which is that person telling him that she had been meeting with her former
boyfriend after marriage, we advise those who want to pass things on to make
sure that any news is true before they pass it on, and that their intentions
are good. Her husband too should have checked whether what he was told was
true or not, and not divorce her on these grounds without verifying
anything. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“O you who believe! If a Faasiq (liar — evil person) comes
to you with any news, verify it, lest you should harm people in ignorance,
and afterwards you become regretful for what you have done”

[al-Hujuraat 49:6] 

Hastening to divorce one’s wife without verifying anything
and without giving oneself time to think it over is a rejection of the
blessing of marriage for no valid reason and destroying the family which is
a blessing that Allaah has bestowed upon the children of Adam, as Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you
wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has
put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a
people who reflect” [al-Room 30:21] 

If he finds out that something displeasing is true, then he
may try to correct it through the means which he is permitted to use by
virtue of his being in charge of his wife (qiwaamah), or he may
separate from her, whilst also concealing her sin. 

3 – If the wife had previous relationships, before marriage,
then she got married and repented to Allaah, and broke off all forbidden
relationships, then she should not be rebuked for what is in the past,
because the one who has repented from a sin is like one who has never
sinned. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and
forgives sins” [al-Shoora 42:25] 

It is not permissible to expose her, to tell everyone about
her or to call her to account for the past; rather he should cover up her
past and her secrets; whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allaah will
cover his faults in this world and in the Hereafter. 

Such cases explain to us the wisdom of the sharee’ah in
forbidding everything that may lead to an improper relationship between a
man and a woman, such as looking at a non-mahram woman, shaking hands with
her, being alone with her, and so on, whether that is before marriage or

4 – With regard to the husband’s parents applying pressure on
him to divorce her without any proof of the things of which she had been
accused, obedience to parents should only be with regard to that which is
good and proper, things that Allaah and His Messenger (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) have permitted. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Obedience is only with regard to
that which is good and proper.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7245; Muslim,
1840). His parents’ orders to hasten to divorce her with no proven sin on
the wife’s part is not something which is good and proper. 

5 – With regard to the foetus in her womb, the basic
principle in sharee’ah is that that the child belongs to the (marriage-) bed
and belongs to the husband, unless he disowns him, because of the hadeeth of
the Prophet: ‘The child belongs to the (marriage-)bed and the adulterer is
to be stoned.” (al-Bukhaari, 2053; Muslim, 1457). 

i.e., the child is to be attributed to the husband and no
attention is to be paid to doubts and the like, especially in a case like
this where the doubts are far-fetched. Islam encourages us to attribute
children to their fathers, so this husband should not open the door to
waswaas (whispers of the Shaytaan) with regard to his son who will be born
to the wife he has divorced, because he has no evidence to the contrary. 

If this husband wants to go back to his wife after this
divorce (talaaq), if she is still pregnant and he issued the talaaq once or
twice, then she is still his wife according to sharee’ah, because her ‘iddah
has not yet ended. Allaah says: 

“And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced
or their husbands are dead), their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is until they
lay down their burden” [al-Talaaq 65:4] 

So he may take her back and ask two men to bear witness that
he is taking her back; in this way she will become his wife again.  

But if she has already given birth and this was the first or
second talaaq, then he may go back to her with a new contract, so long as it
meets all the necessary conditions.  And he should beware of such news and
take care to protect his wife and keep her away from places which may give
rise to suspicion. And Allaah knows best.

Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid


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