Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a
woman to ask for divorce unless there is a reason for that, such as bad
treatment from the husband, because of the report narrated by Abu Dawood
(2226), al-Tirmidhi (1187) and Ibn Maajah (2055) from Thawbaan (may Allaah
be pleased with him) who said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce
when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be
forbidden to her.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
This has been discussed in
the answer to question no. 117185.
The mere fact that there is an argument between the couple does not justify
asking for divorce, and that applies even less to asking for a divorce in
order to test the husband and find out the wife’s position with him. This is
wrong. In such cases the shaytaan may succeed in tempting the husband to
issue a divorce, or may convince him that his wife hates him and dislikes
Divorce should not be
mentioned between husband and wife, either in jest or in earnest. Rather
they should avoid even thinking of it, so long as their relationship is
good, so that it will not become easy to think of taking that step.
Hence we say: Ask Allaah
for forgiveness for this action, and apologize to your husband for what you
pushed him to do.
If your husband said “If
you really want a divorce in your heart then you are divorced”, and in fact
you did not want a divorce, then this does not count as a divorce, and it is
not an oath.
But your husband did not
say that, rather he said something that was less serious than that, namely
“If you want … then it is as you want.” This is not a clear statement of
divorce, rather it is like a hint and a divorce does not take place unless
the husband intends it.
See also the answer to
question no. 98670.
Moreover, he made that
conditional upon something that did not happen, which was your wanting a
So divorce did not take
place when the husband said these words. And there is no need to offer
expiation for breaking an oath (kafaraat yameen).
And Allaah knows best.