Tuesday, 13 March 2012

Is it permissible for one who has committed zina (fornication or adultery) to get married after he or she has repented?

I am a muslim that converted about three years ago. I am still learning and I have a question. I have been told that if I had sex after I converted I would not be able to islamically get married under the ways of islam. I wanted to know if this is true and if it is, is there any way to correct the deed that I am so very sorry for.

Praise be to Allaah.
The one who has committed zina (fornication or adultery) has to repent, because zina is one of the major sins which are forbidden in Islam and for which a stern warning is issued to the one who does them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-69] 
The punishment must be carried out in this world on the one who has committed zina (fornication or adultery), as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“The fornicatress and the fornicator, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not pity withhold you in their case, in a punishment prescribed by Allaah, if you believe in Allaah and the Last Day. And let a party of the believers witness their punishment”
[al-Noor 24:2] 
It was narrated in a hadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Receive (teaching) from me, receive (teaching) from me. Allaah has ordained a way for those (women). When an unmarried male commits adultery with an unmarried female, (they should receive) one hundred lashes and banishment for one year. And in the case of a married male committing adultery with a married female, they shall receive one hundred lashes and be stoned to death.”
(Narrated by Muslim, al-Hudood, 3199). 
Allaah has forbidden the believers to marry a person who commits zina, whether man or woman. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer — fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)”
[al-Noor 24:3] 
If the one who has committed zina repents to Allaah, truly and sincerely, then Allaah will forgive him or her, and overlook the sin. Allaah says, after mentioning the warning to those who commit zina: 
“Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.
And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”
[al-Furqaan 25:70-71 – interpretation of the meaning] 
If the person repents sincerely, then it becomes permissible for him or her to get married, after they give up this sin.  
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem was asked about the ruling on getting married to a woman who has committed zina. He said: “it is not permissible to marry the woman who has committed adultery until she repents… if a man wants to marry her, he has to be sure that she is not pregnant, by waiting until she has a period before he does the marriage contract with her. If she is pregnant, then it is not permissible for him to marry her until she has given birth.” 
See al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/584 

They called upon the angels to witness their marriage

I am a female student living on my ownaway from my family.... i became friendz with one of my colleges last yr .he was ill those days and even had some more problemsin whichhe definitelyneededsomeoneto rely on and few words of strenght.i became thatsupport for him that time.I thought it is nice to help people.....Alllah would reward me for that .But after amonthor sdo we became very good friendzand later got much involved in each other.till now we never touched each other..... once we were playing,i dont remember what happened that day ....he leaned on me and kissed me .both of us being muslims felt guityand at our own placdfes asked forgiveness from allah ...and i dont remember how the same thing happened once moreand we decided to marry...As we were students and due to some economical and social problems we were not able to do it properly and disclose it .....Moreover we nthought its allah who knows everything and we should be clear infront of him. one night after offering salat of isha and two rakaa' of nafilahwe started searching for verses and rules and regulations of marriage in quran.We found some lines but not exact what we wanted that time ....Any how we read few verses from it and sweared holding quran in our hands that we consider each other as our spouse.and would never betray each other ...and thought Angels wouild be our witnesses. and therefore we thought we are married..and kissing and holding each other never haunted us...and we never felt guilt... after 3 months or so ,as we thought we are married many times we shared bed. This yr (after11/12 months),i was reading some questions on this site on divorce and marriage ...(i used this site earlier but never used it for this topic as i never thought i did wrong ...)and there i foundcertain questionslike this but not exactly...there arouse a doubt in my mind that i am practicing wrong thingsso i spoke to him and we stopped practicing it .... sir,we want to know ,whether this marriage is considered or not ...? have we done "zinna"and whether we will be punished for it even if we repent... And sir,if we want to marry in futurecan we marry(if our marriage is not considered)? .

Praise be to Allaah.
What happened between that man and that woman – based on what is mentioned in the question – is undoubtedly zina. Where was the woman’s wali (guardian) in this marriage? It is strange that the angels were witnesses to this marriage but they did not see those witnesses. 
What you have to do is repent to Allaah from what you have done, and realize that you have committed a major sin. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2343) and Muslim (57). For more information please see question no. 11195 and 21223
If a person repents, Allaah rejoices at his repentance and accepts it and forgives him, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-70] 
See also questions no. 27113624 and 20949
They have to cut off all ties with one another, so as to close the door to temptation and desire. If they want to have a good, legitimate relationship, then they should enter houses by the proper doors, as Allaah has prescribed, and they have to fear Allaah and be patient in heeding His sacred limits. A person may be able to put up with the pain of separation but he will not be able to put up with the heat of the Fire. So let them keep away from one another, so that they will not fall into doing that which will earn the wrath and punishment of Allaah, or let them hasten to get married in the proper Islamic manner, after repenting from what they have fallen into of zina. And Allaah knows best.

She claims that her husband raped her daughter and left; is she divorced automatically?

A muslim woman married a muslim man when her youngest daughter was a few months old. he played the role of father.it has been discovered, after he returned to his country of birth for a visit.that he infact sexually molested the little girl and possibly rape.he denies it..but the medical reports confirm this.after weeks of therapy, the child confirmed that it was him that "played" with her..she still thinks it was a cool thing that happened.he has since not returned also sd the authorities are looking for him....QUESTION DOES THIS NULLIFY THE MARRIAGE AUTOMATICALLY? QUESTION: IF NOT -HOW CAN THE MOTHER NULLIFY THIS MARRIAGE.

Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly: 
Undoubtedly what the husband did to this small child – if it is proven – is a serous crime, for which he deserves to be stoned to death. Perhaps such incidents indicate how far such scum are from the laws of Allaah. Hence the Muslim should be careful with regard to marriage, and he should be caution and be careful about letting female relatives of the wife be alone with people who are weak in faith, even if they are small. 
Secondly: 
It is well known that it is not permissible for a man to married at the same time to two sisters, and it is nor permissible for him to marry his wife’s mother – after doing the marriage contract with her – or her daughter – after consummating the marriage with the mother. So if the husband commits zina with the wife’s sister, mother or daughter, does his wife become haraam for him and must he divorce her? And if he was not married to her, is it permissible for him to marry her? These are issues concerning which the scholars differed, and there are three opinions: 
1.
The view of the majority is that his wife does not become haraam for him. This is the view of Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him), ‘Urwah, Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyab and al-Zuhri, and it is the view of the majority of scholars. Some of them narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said that his wife becomes haraam for him, but this is da’eef (weak); the correct view is that which we have mentioned above. 
Their evidence is that marriage in sharee’ah applies only to the woman with whom the marriage contract is done, not just to intercourse. Moreover, there is no dowry, ‘iddah or inheritance in the case of zina. Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: The scholars of different regions who issue fatwas are unanimously agreed that it is not haraam for the zaani to marry the woman with whom he committed zina, so it is more permissible for him to marry her mother or daughter. 
2.
Ibraaheem al-Nakha’i, al-Sha’bi, Abu Haneefah and his companions, Ahmad and Ishaaq said, and it was also narrated from Maalik, that if he commits zina with a woman, her mother and daughter become haraam for him. 
3.
The view of the Hanafis – which is also the view of al-Shaafa’i – is that touching with desire for a permissible reason comes under the same ruling as intercourse, because it is intimacy. But if it is done for a haraam reason, it has no effect, like zina. They said: His wife become haraam for him if he merely touches her mother or looks at her private part. 
Ibraaheem al-Nakha’i said: They used to say: If a man looks at a woman and at that which is not permissible for him, or touches her with desire, then they both become haraam to him.  
Al-Musannaf (3/303). 
The most correct view is the view of the majority, that his doing haraam actions with his wife’s mother, daughter or sister does not make his wife haraam for him, whether he is married or after the marriage has ended. Hence it is known that if a husband molests his wife’s daughter and even it is proven that he raped her, this reprehensible act does not mean that his wife becomes haraam for him. 
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated (5/1963) that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: If a man commits zina with his wife’s sister, his wife does not become haraam for him. 
Al-Bayhaqi narrated – in a report classed as saheeh by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (7/168) – that Ibn ‘Abbaas said concerning a man who committed zina with his wife’s mother: He has transgressed two sacred limits, but the wife does not become haraam for him. 
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
Question: If a man commits zina with a woman, do his ascendants and descendents become haraam for her, and do her ascendants and descendents become haraam for him? 
Answer: They do not become haraam, because that is not included in the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: … your wives’ mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in — but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them (to marry their daughters), — the wives of your sons” [al-Nisa’ 4:23]. The zaaniyah (woman who commits zina) is not included in this, so if a person commits zina with a woman, we do not say that this woman is one of his wives, and we do not say that this woman with whom he committed zina is one of “your wives’ mothers” and thus it remains permissible (to marry her), because she is included in the verse (interpretation of the meaning): “All others are lawful…” [al-Nisa’ 4:24].  
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’ (5/179). 
Thirdly: 
You can ask for the marriage to be annulled by the sharee’ah judge (qaadi) for two legitimate reasons, the first of which is his evildoing and immorality by committing this revolting crime – if it is proven; the second is his being away from the home. Both of these reasons make it permissible for you to seek an annulment of the marriage from the sharee’ah judge and to demand your rights in full. This is called al-talaaq li’l-darar (divorce on the grounds of harm). Imam Maalik and Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on them) said concerning it: The harm which justifies seeking a separation of the couple includes everything that harms the wife or involves mistreatment of her, physically, mentally or psychologically. That varies from one woman to another, and according to circumstances and customs. Examples of harm for which a wife may ask for divorce include hitting her for no legitimate reason, forcing her to do something haraam or not to do something obligatory, and evil deeds, immorality and misconduct on his part. 
And Allaah knows best.

Was Maa’iz married?

Was Ma'iz ibn Malik married or unmarried and if he was a bachelor, why was he stoned? I ask this because I have read that he was not married and was stoned for persistent fornication. However, there are other ahadith about "a man from Bani Aslam" which match the case of Ma'iz (who was from the Aslam) in every detail but do not give the name of the man. Was this man Ma'iz?.

Praise be to Allaah.
The ahaadeeth which tell the story of Maa’iz (may Allaah be pleased with him) and are narrated in al-Saheehayn were narrated through numerous isnaads. In some of them his name is given as Maa’iz, and in these it does not say that he was married. And in some he is mentioned by the name of his tribe – “a man from Aslam” – and in these it says that he was married. 
The context of the ahaadeeth is the same which makes us certain that they are speaking of the same story, which is the story of Maa’iz (may Allaah be pleased with him) and that he was married. This is stated in the text of one hadeeth which is narrated by al-Bayhaqi as we shall see below. There follow some of the reports: 
According to the version narrated by Muslim, they took Maa’iz to the Harrah, and this report states his name. According to a version narrated by al-Bukhaari, they stoned a man from (the tribe of) Aslam – and Maa’iz was a man from the tribe of Aslam as we shall see in the hadeeth from Abu Sa’eed below – so they took him to the Harrah. We also draw your attention to the similarity between the two hadeeth which both say that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned away from him four times, etc. This makes us certain that the two hadeeths are telling the story of the same man. Based on that, it says in the report narrated by al-Bukhaari that he was married. The two reports are as follows: 
(a)   Muslim (1694) narrated: 
From Abu Sa’eed: that a man called Maa’iz ibn Maalik came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “I have committed adultery. Carry out (the hadd punishment) on me.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ignored him several times, then he asked his people (about him). They said: “We do not know of anything wrong with him, except that he has committed some crime and he thinks that he will not be able to relieve himself of its burden unless the hadd punishment is carried out on him.”  So he went back to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he commanded us to stone him. So we took him out to Baqee’ al-Gharqad and we did not tie him up or dig a hole for him. We stoned him with bones, clods and pebbles. He ran away and we ran after him until he came to ‘Arad al-Harrah (a place in Madeenah), where he stopped, and we stoned him with the rocks of the Harrah until he stopped moving (i.e., died). 
(b)  The report narrated by al-Bukhaari (4969): 
It was narrated from Jaabir that a man from (the tribe of) Aslam came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he was in the mosque and he said, “I have committed adultery.”  The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned his face away from him. The man came to that side to which the Prophet had turned his face, and testified against himself four times. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "Are you mad? Are you married?" He said, "Yes.” So he commanded that he be stoned in the Musalla (Eid prayer place). When the stones troubled him, he ran away, until he was caught in al-Harrah and killed.  
And it was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: A man from (the tribe of Aslam) came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he was in the mosque and called him. He said, “O Messenger of Allaah, This man has committed zina,” meaning himself. [The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)] turned his face away from him. The man came to that side to which the Prophet had turned his face, and said, "O Messenger of Allaah, this man has committed zina." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) turned his face to the other side, and the man came to that side, and said the same thing. When he had testified against himself four times, the Prophet called him and said, "Are you mad?" He said, "No." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, "Take him away and stone him to death." And he was married. When the stones troubled him, he ran away, but we caught up with him at al-Harrah and stoned him to death (there)." 
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4970 
This is also stated clearly in Sunan al-Bayhaqi: 
It was narrated from Jaabir from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): a man from (the tribe of) Aslam testified against himself four times in his presence, admitting zina, so he ordered that he be stoned, as he was married. He said: they said that that was Maa’iz. 
Sunan al-Bayhaqi al-Kubra, 8/218 
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar stated in Fath al-Baari that these ahaadeeth tell the story of one man, namely Maa’iz (may Allaah be pleased with him).  
The phrase “a man from Aslam” means a man from the famous tribe of Banu Aslam. The name of this man was Maa’iz ibn Maalik as we shall see below; he was named as such by Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him). 
Al-Haafiz also said: 
The hadeeth which says that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stoned Maa’iz, who was married, appears in al-Saheehayn from Abu Hurayrah. He said to him: “Are you married?” and he said, “Yes.” This was also narrated by al-Bukhaari from Jaabir. 
Al-Diraayah fi Takhreej Ahaadeeth al-Hidaayah, 2/96. 
These ahaadeeth when taken together make us certain that when Maa’iz was stoned, he was married. 
Maa’iz was not stoned because he frequently committed the sin of zina; there is no evidence to indicate that Maa’iz was one of those who frequently commit zina. 
The previously-married person who commits zina deserves to be stoned, whether he got married and divorced, or his wife passed away, or he is still married. 
There is no difference between one who commits zina once and one who commits this sin repeatedly. Whoever has been previously married must be stoned. In the case of one who has not been previously married, the hadd punishment is one hundred lashes and exile for one year. 
And Allaah knows best.

His parents admitted to him that he was conceived in zinaa. Whose name should he take?

My parents conceived me from zina.Whose name do I take and who are my people?
Jazakallah khairyn

Praise be to Allaah. 
 We addressed this question to Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Jibreen, who wrote back to us with the following response:
 The correct view is that there is no sin on the child of zinaa because of the sin of his parents, because he did not do anything wrong. The (burden of) sin is on his parents. On this basis, he can call himself after his father who has acknowledged his paternity, so that he can prove that he belongs to him and his state (in official papers). Or he can call himself after his mother who gave birth to him, because this is his line of descent; then he will belong to her tribe and state. He should also do righteous deeds and be upright in his conduct and commitment to Islam. What his parents did should not cause him any harm. A person who is hindered by his bad deeds will not be helped by his lineage [i.e., a person’s origins do not count for anything if his actions are bad]. And Allaah knows best.

He wants to repent from homosexuality and needs help

I am a very serious muslim who reverted to islam many years ago. i was sexually abused as a child and after that, i am attracted to males as well as females. it is something that i hate within myself, but i don't know how to change it. i don't commit the actual sin often, but i do it sometime. after i do it, i hate it as i know ALLAH hates such perversion. the problem is that i am unable to help myself. i try and try to change, but i am unable to change. i beg and continue to beg ALLAH for help. i have also confessed in front of muslims seeking help, and i have been in therapy. the main thing is that i love ALLAH and the sunnah, and everything else in my life reflects this love. i am constantly striving for the pleasure and nearness of ALLAH. please please please help me. since i am plagued with this sickness, i understand why the sharia mandates that death is the punishment for homosexuality. i am potentially big and serious problem within the ummah. as long as i am alive, i may commit this perversive act. all of my friends are ,uslim and all of them are serious muslims like me. the shaitan may whisper to us and use me to detroy me and a friend's iman. please help me. i am ready to go anywhere i need to go so that i can be subjected to the beautiful and complete sharia of ALLAH. i don't want to commit this sin anymore, and i don't want to be a threat to any of ALLAH's servants. please help me soon. i don't know where else to turn.

Praise be to Allaah.
We will discuss four points with you and no more than that, and we hope that you will read them carefully. These four points are: the abhorrent nature of the sin of homosexuality; the damaging effects it has on health; the greatness of Allaah’s mercy to those who repent; and ways of dealing with this problem. 
1 – The abhorrent nature of the sin of homosexuality 
Ibn al-Qayyim said concerning the people of Loot: 
Those who support the first view – who are the majority of the ummah, and more than one narrated that there was consensus among the Sahaabah on this point – said that there is no sin that causes more corruption than the sin of homosexuality. It is second only to the sin of kufr, and may be greater than the sin of murder, as we shall see below in sha Allaah. 
They said: Allaah did not test anyone with this major sin before the people of Loot, and He punished them with a punishment that he did not send upon any other nation. He sent upon them various kinds of punishment: they were destroyed, their houses were turned upside down, the earth swallowed them up, they were pelted with stones from the sky, their eyes were blinded, they were tormented and their torment was made ongoing. So they were punished severely in a way that no other nation was punished, and that was because of the evilness of this crime which almost causes the earth to shake when it is done on it; and the angels flee to the ends of the heavens and the earth when they witness it, fearing that the punishment may come upon its people and strike them too; and the earth cries out to its Lord, and the mountains almost collapse. 
Killing the one to whom it is done would be better for him than having intercourse with him, for if a man has intercourse with him he corrupts him in such a way that life is no longer worth living, unlike killing him in a real sense, in which case he would be a martyr who had been wronged, which may be of benefit to him in the Hereafter. 
And he said: 
The companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) agreed unanimously that he should be put to death, and none of them disagreed about that. Rather they differed with regard to the manner in which he should be put to death. Some of the people thought that the difference of opinion had to do with whether [the homosexual] should be executed, and they narrated it as being a point of dispute among the Sahaabah, whereas in fact it was a matter on which there was consensus. 
Whoever ponders the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra’ 17:32] 
And the verse in which He says concerning homosexuality (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And (remember) Loot (Lot), when he said to his people: “Do you commit the worst sin such as none preceding you has committed in the ‘Aalameen (mankind and jinn)?”
[al-A’raaf 7:80] 
will see a difference between the two. For Allaah mentioned zina without the definite article, indicating it is a kind of evil action, but He mentioned homosexuality (liwaat) with the definite article al-, which means that it encompasses all aspects of faahishah or evil.   
Then Allaah confirms that and states that no one in the ‘aalameen (mankind and jinn) ever did this before them, as He says, “such as none preceding you has committed in the ‘Aalameen (mankind and jinn)”. Then He emphasizes that even further by mentioning it a blunt manner that demonstrates the abhorrent nature of this action, which is a man having intercourse with a man as a man has intercourse with a woman, and He says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Verily, you practise your lusts on men instead of women”
[al-A’raaf 7:81] 
Then Allaah confirms how abhorrent that is by stating that the homosexuals distort the nature with which Allaah has created men, which is to desire women rather than men. They have twisted the natural order and they approach men with desire rather than women. Hence Allaah turned their houses upside down and their hearts likewise, and they were turned upside down, as a punishment. 
Then Allaah reiterated the abhorrence of their actions by judging them to have transgressed all bounds as He says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Nay, but you are a people transgressing beyond bounds (by committing great sins)”
[al-A’raaf 7:81] 
Think about this: was this, or anything similar, said concerning adultery? And Allaah reiterated the abhorrent nature of their action when He said (interpretation of the meaning): 
“and We saved him from the town (folk) who practised Al‑Khabaa’ith (evil, wicked and filthy deeds)”
[al-Anbiya’ 21:74] 
Then Allaah the All-Knowing condemned them further by describing them as being extremely evil, as He said (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Verily, they were a people given to evil, and were Faasiqoon (rebellious, disobedient to Allaah)”
[al-Anbiya’ 21:74] 
And He described them as mufsidoon (evildoers etc), as He said (interpretation of the meaning): 
“My Lord! Give me victory over the people who are Mufsidoon (those who commit great crimes and sins, oppressors, tyrants, mischief‑makers, corrupters).”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:30]  
And He called them zaalimoon (wrongdoers), in the words that the angels said to Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) (interpretation of the meaning): 
“Verily, we are going to destroy the people of this [Loot (Lot’s)] town (i.e. the town of Sodom in Palestine); truly, its people have been Zaalimoon [wrongdoers, polytheists disobedient to Allaah, and belied their Messenger Loot (Lot)]”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:31] 
Think about those who have been punished in these ways, and whom Allaah has condemned in such terms. 
And he said: 
Pleasure ceased and was followed with loss; desires ended and led to misery; they enjoyed themselves for a little while, but will be punished for a long time. They grazed on filth, and they suffer a painful torment. They were intoxicated with those desires, but they have awoken in the abode of the tormented. They feel the greatest regret, by Allaah, at the time when regret is to no avail. They weep for what they did before, with tears of blood. If only you could see the highest and lowest of this group, with fire coming out from their faces and bodies when they are in the depths of Hell, drinking cups of boiling water instead of delightful drinks, being told as they are being dragged on their faces, “Taste of that which you used to earn.” 
“Taste you therein its heat and whether you are patient of it or impatient of it, it is all the same. You are only being requited for what you used to do”
[al-Toor 52:16 – interpretation of the meaning] 
Adapted from al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, pp. 240-245. 
2 – The damaging effects it has on health: 
Dr Mahmoud al-Hijaazi said in his book al-Amraad al-Jinsiyyah wa’l-Tanaasuliyyah (Sexual and genital diseases), when discussing some of the dangers to health caused by committing sodomy: 
The diseases which are transmitted by way of sexual perversion (homosexuality) are: 
1.     AIDS, which causes loss of acquired immunity and usually leads to death.
2.     Viral inflammation of the liver
3.     Syphilis
4.     Gonorrhea
5.     Herpes
6.     Bacterial inflammation of the anus
7.     Typhoid
8.     Amoebiasis
9.     Intestinal worms
10. Anal warts
11. Scabies
12. Pubic lice (“crabs”)
13. Cytomegalovirus that may lead to anal cancer
14. Genital-lymphatic pustules  
3 – The greatness of Allaah’s mercy to those who repent 
From the above it is clear that this immoral action is seriously wrong and abhorrent, and leads to harmful consequences. Nevertheless the door is open for sinners to repent, and Allaah rejoices at their repentance. 
Think about what Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-70] 
By thinking about the words, “Allaah will change their sins into good deeds”, you will see how great is the bounty of Allaah the Almighty. 
The scholars said that there are two meanings of the word “change”: 
(i)                Bad attributes will be turned into good attributes, such as their shirk being turned into faith, their adultery into chastity, their lying into honesty, their treachery into trustworthiness, and so on.
(ii)              The bad deeds that they have done will be turned into good deeds on the Day of Resurrection. 
So what you must do is repent to Allaah and know that your coming back to Him is better for you and your family and your brothers and the entire society. 
Remember that life is short, and that the Hereafter is better and more lasting. Do not forget that Allaah destroyed the people of Loot in a way that He did not destroy any other nation. 
4 – Ways of dealing with this problem 
(i)                Keeping away from the things that make it easy for you to fall into this sin and remind you of it, such as:
-         Letting your gaze wander and looking at women or movies
-         Being alone with any man or woman 
(ii)              Always keeping yourself busy with things that will benefit you in your religious or worldly affairs, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“So when you have finished (your occupation), devote yourself for Allaah’s worship”
[al-Sharh 94:7]
So when you have finished with some worldly task, then strive to do something that will benefit you in the Hereafter, such as remembering Allaah (dhikr), reading Qur’aan, seeking knowledge, listening to useful tapes, etc.
When you finish one act of worship then start another, and if you finish one worldly task then start another… and so on, because if you do not keep your nafs (self) busy with good things, it will keep you busy with bad things. So do not give your nafs any opportunity or spare time to think about this evil action. 
(iii)            Compare the pleasure you feel when committing this sin with the regret, anxiety and confusion that follow it and stay with you for a long time, and then the torment that awaits the one who does that in the Hereafter. Do you think that any wise man would give precedence to this pleasure which vanishes after an hour over the regret and torment that follow? You can become more convinced of this if you read the book by Ibn al-Qayyim, al-Jawaab al-Kaafi li man sa’ala ‘an al-Dawa’ al-Shaafi. He wrote it for people in a situation like yours. May Allaah make things easy for us and for you.  
(iv)            The wise man does not give up a thing that he loves except for something that he loves more, or for fear of something he dislikes. This evil action will cause you to lose the blessings of this world and the Hereafter, to lose Allaah’s love for you, and will incur the anger, wrath and punishment of Allaah. 
Compare the good you will lose and the evil that will come to you because of this evil action. The wise man will see which should take precedence. 
(v)              More important than all of the above is making du’aa’ and seeking the help of Allaah to ward off this evil from you. Make the most of the times and situations in which prayers are answered, such as sujood (prostration), before the tasleem at the end of prayer, the last third of the night, when it is raining, when travelling, when fasting, and when breaking the fast. 
We ask Allaah to guide you and to accept your repentance, and to help you to avoid bad deeds and bad attitudes. 
And Allaah knows best.

Her past is giving her sleepless nights and she feels bad for her child

I was a very modern girl until I met my husband who brought me to Islam alhamdulilah. I was a zaniya and I never thought it was that bad! this is making me have sleepless nights (which I sometimes spend praying to Allah)and no matter how much I do I feel Allah will not forgive me for the many sins! I got pregnant from my husband when we were still engaged ! the child is 7 now! is he a "Child from Zina" will I ever be forgiven!
jazakum allah alf khair


Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly, whoever repents, Allaah accepts his or her repentance.
Secondly, if the pregnancy and birth happened before the marriage contract took place according to sharee’ah, the child takes the adulterous mother’s name, not the adulterous father’s. The child still has rights according to sharee’ah and he should be given a good upbringing and cared for properly.
Thirdly, you should not despair of the mercy of Allaah or say “Allaah will not forgive me.” “No one despairs of Allaah’s soothing mercy except those who have no faith” [Yoosuf 12:87 – interpretation of the meaning]; “And who despairs of the mercy of his Lord, but such as go astray?” [al-Hijr 15:56 – interpretation of the meaning]. So long as you have repented, you should have the hope of mercy from Allaah.
Fourthly, you will find a detailed answer about repentance from zinaa and a lot of information to make you feel better, in the book “"I Want to Repent, But...", which is published in the “Books” section of this website.
Fifthly, what is in the past can be dealt with by repenting. From now on you have to try to do a lot of good deeds, because good deeds wipe out bad deeds and raise a person’s status. We ask Allaah to forgive your sins and help you adhere firmly to His religion. We wish you a future filled with good deeds and acts of worship. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad,

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